I don’t appreciate when people say that, but that’s because I don’t exhibit trash behavior like that. It’s ok to be upset when you’re inappropriately lumped in with shitty people solely based on your genetics.
Exactly. Its like when I say women are irrational and overemotional and they get mad. If it doesn't apply to you then just recognize its not about you and ignore it! Let me have my thing! /s
That's not an answer to the question :] so I'm guessing no
Black people can complain about white people, no one's denying that
So women can complain about men, the only reason we deny that is continuing misogyny
Complain all you want. Trying to lump half the human population into one group and dehumanize them as 'trash' is still probably not something you should be doing, regardless of history.
You are unwittingly creating resentment from strangers you don’t know because you feel so justified based on things that may or may not have happened to you, but you have the privilege of holding others accountable for in some righteous, self soothing way. It would be easier just to say you hate all men (for the benefit of the men I mean, so they can know to avoid you).
I don't hate all men. I have friends who are men. Those friends also just shrug and sometimes even agree with me when I complain about men (one is twice my age with tons more life experience)
Creating resentment from strangers is all that happens on reddit so I'm fine with that
The truth is women have to be constantly alert and suspicious of men literally just to survive. We are raised that way and there's damn good reason for it. If you can't recognize that, you're probably part of the problem and not an ally to women in any way
You sound like you’re in highschool or just out of it, so I’ll just let you continue experiencing life and hopefully you’ll find a more peaceful, less resentful way to approach this subject in the future. All people deserve a fair shake in life. You have no right to take that away because of your own prejudice.
I was saying that because a lot of what you’re saying is accidentally discounting others’ experiences while overcompensating for your own. In relationships, friends or otherwise, you gain a lot more from seeing people as your equal in as many respects as possible. It’s too bad you’ve had bad experiences, but a lot of people have. Don’t let it define how you treat people unless you’re looking for the same prejudice in return; you’re enabling bad behavior by embodying it yourself versus discrediting it by going above it. Nothing helps bad habits proliferate more than exhibiting the same bad behavior yourself.
I’ve been married over a decade and my wife is an absolute gem to humanity. She feels the same about me and it’s made me work towards being a better and better version of myself everyday I get to spend with her. Love and giving has far more power than hate and judgement.
I literally don't see how I'm discrediting other people's experiences
I have friends who go "white people suck, but not you you get it" when I'm in the room and I don't take personal offense to it because they aren't talking about me? Why can't men do the same? I don't understand?
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u/ratbum Apr 24 '26
Wow. I bet they complain when people say "men are trash" too