I don’t appreciate when people say that, but that’s because I don’t exhibit trash behavior like that. It’s ok to be upset when you’re inappropriately lumped in with shitty people solely based on your genetics.
What a weird excuse to justify your bigotry. Although I guess the excuse is always going to be desperate when you're claiming "no everyone else's generalisations are EVIL! but mine is not only justified by very righteous!"
Young women today were not alive to experience how women were treated 200 years ago, and young men were not alive to be responsible for it. Trying to hold men accountable for "historical marginalisation" they had nothing to do with is how you end up with more red-pilled kids.
Change “men” to any other word and it would be seen differently. Blanket statements of any sort are just not smart and not helpful to anyone. Just my opinion.
Bigotry doesnt have to be about me specifically for me to dislike it
Otherwise I wouldn't dislike racial bigotry, or bigotry towards women (misogyny)
People who conditionally accept bigotry (or even condone it) just because of the group its targeted towards are opportunistic bigots (even those whose entire identity is based around being progressive)
Exactly. Its like when I say women are irrational and overemotional and they get mad. If it doesn't apply to you then just recognize its not about you and ignore it! Let me have my thing! /s
That's not an answer to the question :] so I'm guessing no
Black people can complain about white people, no one's denying that
So women can complain about men, the only reason we deny that is continuing misogyny
Complain all you want. Trying to lump half the human population into one group and dehumanize them as 'trash' is still probably not something you should be doing, regardless of history.
You are unwittingly creating resentment from strangers you don’t know because you feel so justified based on things that may or may not have happened to you, but you have the privilege of holding others accountable for in some righteous, self soothing way. It would be easier just to say you hate all men (for the benefit of the men I mean, so they can know to avoid you).
I don't hate all men. I have friends who are men. Those friends also just shrug and sometimes even agree with me when I complain about men (one is twice my age with tons more life experience)
Creating resentment from strangers is all that happens on reddit so I'm fine with that
The truth is women have to be constantly alert and suspicious of men literally just to survive. We are raised that way and there's damn good reason for it. If you can't recognize that, you're probably part of the problem and not an ally to women in any way
You sound like you’re in highschool or just out of it, so I’ll just let you continue experiencing life and hopefully you’ll find a more peaceful, less resentful way to approach this subject in the future. All people deserve a fair shake in life. You have no right to take that away because of your own prejudice.
I was saying that because a lot of what you’re saying is accidentally discounting others’ experiences while overcompensating for your own. In relationships, friends or otherwise, you gain a lot more from seeing people as your equal in as many respects as possible. It’s too bad you’ve had bad experiences, but a lot of people have. Don’t let it define how you treat people unless you’re looking for the same prejudice in return; you’re enabling bad behavior by embodying it yourself versus discrediting it by going above it. Nothing helps bad habits proliferate more than exhibiting the same bad behavior yourself.
I’ve been married over a decade and my wife is an absolute gem to humanity. She feels the same about me and it’s made me work towards being a better and better version of myself everyday I get to spend with her. Love and giving has far more power than hate and judgement.
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u/NerdNuncle Apr 24 '26
Know of at least four husbands/boyfriends to either:
1.) Tell the expectant mother to “hurry up”
2.) Complain he’s the one suffering because he’s been sitting in a chair for hours
3.) Blame the doctor/mother because baby wasn’t sex he had wanted
4.) Get mad they couldn’t smoke a celebratory cigar whilst holding the newborn and/or in the hospital <—- Boomer thing, apparently
So yeah, I do not envy anyone in the OB/GYN field
SOURCE: Worked at a hospital for a few months in what was essentially sanitation. Someone leaked it or spilled it, we cleaned it.
Believe and trust I heard plenty but thankfully never saw anything