Nah it's not. I can see how someone would want to normalise such a shitty event to deal with it but the fathers I know and myself have been much much more involved and supportive than our fathers were
Yup, if they married and had a child with a man like this, you can't really expect the people they surround themselves with to be vastly different. So they'd think it's normal to be like this.
I married a person like this and none of the other people around me were like this except him and his family, but I was young and had never had a husband before. I knew how 4 fathers acted, my own father who did not act this way, my kids’ father who did act this way, and my kids’ uncle (their dads brother) who did act this way, and my kids’ dad’s best friend who wasn’t involved. I was aware it was poor behavior, but my lived experience was 3/4 had poor behavior so it seemed pretty normal to me. My own dad just seemed extra awesome. A few years later when our guy friend became a dad and did not act this way and began talking about how much he grew as a person after having a wife and kid, I realized the shitty people were just shitty people, not normal.
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u/tiorzol Apr 24 '26
Nah it's not. I can see how someone would want to normalise such a shitty event to deal with it but the fathers I know and myself have been much much more involved and supportive than our fathers were