Nah it's not. I can see how someone would want to normalise such a shitty event to deal with it but the fathers I know and myself have been much much more involved and supportive than our fathers were
Joke's on you : my father was so involved that he fainted in the delivery room, hit his head on the chair he had been waiting on and was evacuated by a nurse directly to neurology while my mom had her baby.
So... he wasn't really that supportive at that point, but he stayed the night at the hospital, at least.
Hey, your dad gave his best. Birth is a monumental task and as a father you feel like a helpless bystander that is watching his wife perform a fucking miracle while screaming in pain or begging for help while all you can do is hold her hand and tell her she's doing great while there's excrement and blood involved.
Your dad is LEAGUES ahead of a guy that just leaves to smoke weed and fall asleep.
I remember when my wife gave birth, I turned around and went to hug my MIL crying and the nurses yelled at me “Come back you get to cut the chord” so I hurried did that and wanted to get out of the nurses way. I kept staring toward our son when thy moved him over to the separate baby bed thing with the light on it, I looked back towards my wife when they wheeled the placenta past me and I remember crying again and saying, “is that important? Does that need to go back in my wife” and just sliding down into the chair beside me.
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u/tiorzol Apr 24 '26
Nah it's not. I can see how someone would want to normalise such a shitty event to deal with it but the fathers I know and myself have been much much more involved and supportive than our fathers were