Nah it's not. I can see how someone would want to normalise such a shitty event to deal with it but the fathers I know and myself have been much much more involved and supportive than our fathers were
Indeed, with the eceptions of the extremely insecure or the extremely aware this is mostly.
I know for many years, I used to think my level of kindness, honesty, skill, and consideration was normal.... it took dealing with people for multiple years to notice I was anything but normal. But indeed it can happen on the opposite extreme as well, as my friends girlfriend has normalized abuse, taking advantage of othere, deception, and manipulation when I first met her (even thogh to a degree hers is more normalized, her levels where more extreme than normal and poorly done at that), she improved over the years as she learend to balance out her narcisstic tendencies and relaize some people arent that way and that it isnt always efficient to just full dive into it.
But it shows that indeed regardless of where we stand, the ideal of normal can often center around either ourselves, or our experiences. But to be fair what else is there to base it on outside of faith and ideals? Lol
Now after being more aware, I still choose to see myself as "my normal" and recognize the general normal as still strange, as frankly I see the generalized normal as kinda sick or mentally disabled in comparsion and rather feel concern so I can enrich them, than feel superior to them (regardless of if it comes across the same, if I accept them as the normal and feel okay with it, it would make me blatantly superior, which makes me feel sad, and makes me feel annoyed as oppsed to compassionate, so it also shows the value of perceptions influnce on our feelings)
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u/Upstairs-Hedgehog575 Apr 24 '26
Is it? That sounds horrendous.