I try not to be. I like the fact that we can improve ourselves independently of our surroundings, and play on that. I analyze most people and take characteristics I want for myself, and watch out for their characteristics I don't like that I might be replicating or have similarities.
Seems to be working way too well, judging by how often people say im different than the others (in a positive sense, but still). Maybe I need to look out a little for more discreet people's characteristics so I can blend in a little more.
That said, I suppose it is impossible to go completely against nurture just by nature. If you live amongst thieves and take notes on how to be a better thief, you might improve on it. But you're still a thief.
I'm already. I was diagnosed with autistim spectrum disorder a couple of years ago. Social interactions don't come naturally for me so I had to study people and understand better how the average person interacts with each other you know?
Nowadays in theory you couldn't tell I'm autistic because I corrected most of the tells (also this is why it took me so long to get diagnosed). Eye contact for example. I used to avoid it when I was a kid, then when enough people complained about it I overcorrected and didn't look away enough... Well, I had to research about it. I eventually discovered that the normal amount is on average 3 seconds in, 3 seconds out. Nowadays no one complains about it anymore.
Wow, thank you for sharing! Yeah makes perfect sense. I find it interesting how it’s almost a scientific approach to human engagement. How are social patterns quantified and how you can analyze the data to replicate results.
It’s only been a couple years and you’ve put a lot of work in. Not everyone puts so much effort into pursuing self improvement, for that you should be proud. Just be careful in your efforts, to not overtly oppress yourself for the sake of “conformity”. But the mindset and willingness to improve is invaluable
Working in Tech, myself and many of my friends are neurodivergent. Much of my family too. I may not have had the same journey as you, but I respect and recognize your story
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u/BootlegEngineer Apr 24 '26
I heard or read somewhere a long time ago that you are a sum of the 6 closest people to you.