The self-formed bubble is such a common perception-distorting issue. It's the same with "Why aren't there any good guys, all the guys I date are assholes." or "Why aren't there any good women? All the women I date just want my money.".
Well, if you keep dating a specific type of person, you will end up dating that specifict type of person.
I try not to be. I like the fact that we can improve ourselves independently of our surroundings, and play on that. I analyze most people and take characteristics I want for myself, and watch out for their characteristics I don't like that I might be replicating or have similarities.
Seems to be working way too well, judging by how often people say im different than the others (in a positive sense, but still). Maybe I need to look out a little for more discreet people's characteristics so I can blend in a little more.
That said, I suppose it is impossible to go completely against nurture just by nature. If you live amongst thieves and take notes on how to be a better thief, you might improve on it. But you're still a thief.
I'm a Frankenstein of everyone I admire glued together with mental super glue lol.
To be honest I'm just now at 23 years old starting to like who I've become. I think my personality outwardly is almost ready. I'm not 'weird' anymore. Nowadays I'm described by other people more as "smart" because of my problem solving.
Now on to improve physical appearance and habits, like being more organized, more on time, dress a little bit better, well equiped... And since I've solved other people I've been for working on my internal side too, philosophy mostly.
Masking for the win! It's like a game and I can choose my character stats. I used to envy other people for being normal without effort, but since I've realized they can't do this as easily as I do, I've been eager to explore this side of me a little more. I can have the benefits without the drawbacks
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u/Square-Singer Apr 24 '26
The self-formed bubble is such a common perception-distorting issue. It's the same with "Why aren't there any good guys, all the guys I date are assholes." or "Why aren't there any good women? All the women I date just want my money.".
Well, if you keep dating a specific type of person, you will end up dating that specifict type of person.