as someone who's sister just delivered a baby, I can tell you that the nurses and doctors there said that most men sit in the corner (if they even come at all) and act annoyed. most of the time, they don't seem interested in becoming a father. it's very sad to see.
And nurses at hospitals all over the place are all saying the same thing. But half the guys in here keep insisting that it's anecdotal and the other half say it's not true because they're one of the good ones. Either way, they're disregarding what women are saying.
According to people in here, it’s not just women saying it but professionals in general. Ask yourself why you felt the need to bring gender/sex into it.
It's just hard to fathom if I remember my son's birth. It's a bit of haze, but sitting in the corner being annoyed wasn't part of it. Sorry, apparently fathers in this thread should disregard their own lived experience.
I get that it happens and bad fathers exist, but I really do wonder where this hospital is, where it's most fathers who are like that. That's shocking.
Is it that hard to believe women when we say how awful many men are? If anything I think you’d be proud that you’re better than them rather than throwing your lot in with useless men.
That cuts both ways, though. People are believing all the commenters who are saying they're great dads, but when a woman says her husband was useless during labour, everyone's ready to either stick up for a guy they never met or comment that he probably doesn't exist.
Is it that hard to believe women when we say how awful many men are?
In this case, yes.
If anything I think you’d be proud that you’re better than them
I'm not proud for making some incredibly low bar... I'm surprised at nurses saying that most men are not (emotionally) present for their child's birth, and skeptical whether that's actually true. My sister-in-law worked for an organisation for midwifery, I'll ask her instead of some stranger in the internet. Bye
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u/ElfOverlord Apr 24 '26
as someone who's sister just delivered a baby, I can tell you that the nurses and doctors there said that most men sit in the corner (if they even come at all) and act annoyed. most of the time, they don't seem interested in becoming a father. it's very sad to see.