Lois here, it's one of the phrases that enrage the woman. What do you know, Peter? Do we really got this? Would you be 'getting it' if your inside felt like being torn apart by an infant the size of Meg?
I don't know why you're getting such defensive answers from the commenters, THIS IS IT. Even the most well-intended encouragement can hit a nerve when it's coming from a person who doesn't know the pain you're in, and tells you to relax.
According to your stupid take, men are damned if they are present and supportive as they done know the pain, and damned if they are not present/supportive.
If this take were to be the right one then every single delivery class globally is wrong.
Her take is that sometimes, when a person is in a lot of pain, they aren't responding rationally to well meaning encouragement. Childbirth is incredibly painful, emotional, and for a lot of people traumatic - no one is at their best, ESPECIALLY not the woman giving birth. its not about men being damned if they do damned if they don't - its that that amount of pain is so difficult to cope with that people act irrationally, and sometimes that looks like being frustrated with the affirmations of a person who doesn't understand the pain. Thats not a moral indictment of the man, just an observation about the human response to pain.
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u/New_Musician8473 Apr 24 '26
Lois here, it's one of the phrases that enrage the woman. What do you know, Peter? Do we really got this? Would you be 'getting it' if your inside felt like being torn apart by an infant the size of Meg?