Pr9bably the best judges but don't tell my parents that lol. Nurses can project how they want to be treated onto other couples. My mom was very much "get this thing out of me and take the baby" but the nurses boxed my dad out and kept trying to force my mom to take it. They'd tell you my dad was being pushy despite him trying to do exactly what my mom said she needed him to do. Not everyone wants the same kind of support and nurses can be super judgemental.
They absolutely are. It’s like they don’t want the father anywhere around even when the father is doing everything right and doing exactly what the mother needs. I understand they probably see a lot of shitty fathers but also if wasn’t assertive they wouldn’t have let me be involved at all, and then they would have trashed me for not being involved.
I’m still pissed off that they tried to keep me from carrying my own child out of the hospital (in a car seat), when they were discharged, and insisted that my wife had to carry the seat in her lap, where it was sitting directly on a fresh c-section incision.
Men are just automatically assumed to be bad these days. Guilty til proven innocent seems like. take your kid to a public to like a playground and observe how many suspicious dirty looks you get. They assume you kidnapped your own child.
I think this statement is proving the idea of what we think is normal is not always true. In my world, no rational person would ever think that the fathers I know are perverted kidnappers. It's not the normal experience. At least for the last 20 years.
If anything I will more likely see fathers getting too much credit for doing the bare minimum. They will do the same stuff that any mother is expected to do, but get treated like they are going above and beyond.
The kind of people I choose to hang out with are egalitarian in their relationships. Even if they decide to live traditional lives.
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u/Fear_Jaire Apr 24 '26
Pr9bably the best judges but don't tell my parents that lol. Nurses can project how they want to be treated onto other couples. My mom was very much "get this thing out of me and take the baby" but the nurses boxed my dad out and kept trying to force my mom to take it. They'd tell you my dad was being pushy despite him trying to do exactly what my mom said she needed him to do. Not everyone wants the same kind of support and nurses can be super judgemental.