It's amazing that people in the comments are somehow making this your fault. I was a midwife and unfortunately men acting like this is not uncommon, and often their partners don't know that they will be like this until it's crunch time and a huge, life-changing event happens - and then you either have to live with the knowledge that they're an unsupportive partner for the rest of your relationship, or kick them to the kerb (which isn't easy with a new baby etc.) It's a really shitty situation to find yourself in and I feel like some empathy in this comment section wouldn't go amiss.
There is no way someone who will leave when you're giving birth to smoke weed and sleep wouldn't have shown that kind of extremely selfish uncaring and lazy behavior before. It would totally be your fault for choosing to have a baby with a clearly underdeveloped man like that. Women are not all stupid children that can't judge a person's character.
It's very common for men to hide this until they are assured their partner will never ever leave - that milestone is often either marriage or the first baby
It's not a conscious decision necessarily, a switch to "now I own you"
Some have had the most loving, considerate, attentive partner turn into someone who beats them on the night of the wedding.
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u/Wonderful-Pumpkin695 Apr 24 '26
It's amazing that people in the comments are somehow making this your fault. I was a midwife and unfortunately men acting like this is not uncommon, and often their partners don't know that they will be like this until it's crunch time and a huge, life-changing event happens - and then you either have to live with the knowledge that they're an unsupportive partner for the rest of your relationship, or kick them to the kerb (which isn't easy with a new baby etc.) It's a really shitty situation to find yourself in and I feel like some empathy in this comment section wouldn't go amiss.