You would be surprised at the number of men who completely switch up the moment the woman either becomes pregnant or has the baby. A lot of women don't follow through with their pregnancy knowing they're going to be all alone, either literally or in spirit. These men talk a big game but have no follow through, and the woman's only real flaw is daring to believe them.
I find it interesting your phrase it as women being married to idiots rather than the men just... being idiots. It may not have been overtly intentional on your part but its fundamentally placing blame on the woman for the actions of the man. "How could she marry such a loser," is a lot different than "How could he be such a loser."
Why is she at fault for marrying him? Not every abusive asshole acts like that until marriage? My mother-in-law had a very sweet bf as a teen, smaller town everyone loved him. When she broke up with him, he stalked the house until she was home alone and walked up with a shotgun.
Im not denying this happens. But its much rarer than there being red flags. Its simply unlikely that the person we are all replying to had a perfect partner until they were in the delivery room, qnd then they suddenly became useless. Not impossible. But unlikely.
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u/christona-bike Apr 24 '26
You would be surprised at the number of men who completely switch up the moment the woman either becomes pregnant or has the baby. A lot of women don't follow through with their pregnancy knowing they're going to be all alone, either literally or in spirit. These men talk a big game but have no follow through, and the woman's only real flaw is daring to believe them.
I find it interesting your phrase it as women being married to idiots rather than the men just... being idiots. It may not have been overtly intentional on your part but its fundamentally placing blame on the woman for the actions of the man. "How could she marry such a loser," is a lot different than "How could he be such a loser."