A lot of men don’t reveal their true selves until after a baby is born. Once the woman doesn’t have the time or energy for him that she had before. Prior to adding a baby to the mix, the man gets a lot of undivided attention and they often get resentful that that they’re not getting the attention and sex that they did before because babies are a 24/7/365 job with no breaks and they were raised on TV and likely in families where the woman does the bulk of the household work and child care no matter how many hours she works or what hobbies she used to have.
It’s also a lot harder to leave once you have kids because you can’t just stay anywhere or work any shift anymore so that’s the point at which he’s got you locked in because you’re in survival mode for a couple years after giving birth.
Damn dude it’s rare for someone to rethink what they say and come back to it, especially on Reddit. Thank you for that, and sorry I was flippant/rude about it. Honestly interactions like this help relieve some of my constant existential dread lol Have a great weekend 💕
It is never the other person’s responsibility to “choose better” if someone lied, acted, and pretended to be better. You keep saying it’s possible to choose the right one in relation to you, but you seem like a douche, so I guess it’s all relative huh 🤷♀️
I apologize I realize now that I had an emotional response to learning about this situation. I am sorry for being obtuse. I was angry and frustrated that this kind of stuff happens and I was very wrong about what I was trying to communicate .
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u/marbotty Apr 24 '26
I can’t imagine being in a relationship with this sort of person, let alone having a child with them.
I’m sure this wasn’t the first time they revealed themselves as horrible