There is no way someone who will leave when you're giving birth to smoke weed and sleep wouldn't have shown that kind of extremely selfish uncaring and lazy behavior before. It would totally be your fault for choosing to have a baby with a clearly underdeveloped man like that. Women are not all stupid children that can't judge a person's character.
It's very common for men to hide this until they are assured their partner will never ever leave - that milestone is often either marriage or the first baby
It's not a conscious decision necessarily, a switch to "now I own you"
Some have had the most loving, considerate, attentive partner turn into someone who beats them on the night of the wedding.
very common for men to hide this until they are assured their partner will never ever leave -
This a very online or fantasy novel opinion, not founded in any sort of reality.
Can someone hide their personality for weeks? Sure. For months? Maybe. Can they hide it when living together for years? No one is keeping up an act for that long. Also to think that it's common to run into complete psychopaths that would even think like that is also absurd.
"Some have had the most loving, considerate, attentive partner turn into someone who beats them on the night of the wedding"
Anyone who would say that happened to them are either lying or delusional. No one is a perfect partner for years and then just switches to being an abusive maniac overnight, mental illness aside. They either chose to look past those traits/warning signs early on or are coping after the fact.
If you truly think what you said is reality, you should never date a man since it's evidently a total coin flip that you have no control over whether or not you end up with an abusive relationship.
Terrible comparisons. None of these are comparable to the personality traits I was talking about. It's also telling that you think the female equivalent of being physically and or mentally abusive is gold digging or cheating, instead of... you know being abusive as well?
cheating on someone and lying about it isn't the same type of personality trait as being physically or mentally abusive, or even being very selfish and uncaring.
Gold-digging is again not the same type of personality trait, but I think there are usually signs of this too
I don't know what your point with alimony was. Alimony payment doesn't imply anything about the woman or why the marriage ended.
A similar comparison would be a guy saying his girlfriend of multiple years literally overnight became abusive or "crazy". Which, outside of mental illness, there would also be signs of throughout the relationship. Just like if a man is an abuser. It goes both ways.
I also don't think any of the things you mentioned, outside of alimony, are very common, unlike the commentor you're defending who thinks psychopathic abusers with the ability to hide their true selves for years until switching overnight are very common
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u/OldBet7479 Apr 24 '26
There is no way someone who will leave when you're giving birth to smoke weed and sleep wouldn't have shown that kind of extremely selfish uncaring and lazy behavior before. It would totally be your fault for choosing to have a baby with a clearly underdeveloped man like that. Women are not all stupid children that can't judge a person's character.