Even if it was just a booger being pointed at you, you don't get to tell someone they have to not be repulsed, that's their body / mind's reaction. Nobody should be a jerk about it.
Should they try to be there for them in some comforting level that works? Yes. Should they be shamed for not enjoying the sight of tons of blood and other fluids? No.
Personally, I like babies just fine, when they don't come out looking like an 80s horror flick. I can't even watch it on medical shows. There are other medical procedures I can't tolerate to watch either, especially cutting into people.
Cut a watermelon? Fine. Cut a personmelon? Not fine.
I don't like watching people vomit.
I don't like watching people take a piss.
I don't like watching people even just sit on a toilet.
Even just eye contact is uncomfortable at times.
Some things are just uncomfortable and repulsive, and some of those things are not exposure therapy projects.
There are some things I just will not be able to do or be around, things that will take strength to push through if it's a one time thing, and things I would be willing to end relationships, trips, or opportunities on.
Those are boundaries.
Some might be irrational, but I can't just tell my brain to man up. Some might be superficial out of inexperience, and can be worked on. What doesn't work is on the spot "deal with it" mentality, or "Well I have no problem with it." dismissiveness.
Everyone has their own issues with things, and you don't get to tell people what they can or can't be okay with. You certainly don't have to agree with it or share in the same issues, but if someone has a phobia over cucumbers, or can't be around the smell of fecies, or watch their wifes vagina push out a 10 lb booger... you don't get to humiliate them and make them feel small.
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