More like it's uncommon to see in her work . If it were a random saying it then I'd say it's sexism but it's a whole medical practitioner who has probably seen countless births so if she is surprised it's because it isn't something they see all the time not because she's taking a jab at men or whatever.
I don't think it can just be labeled as sexism though because they haven't given a reason or trait that makes men not be there for their partners. Some are in the room but keep their distance, some are right next to their partner, some don't even make it into the room .
“I, a corrections officer for a region in which there is a statistically anomalously high black population, express surprise when it turns out that the black inmate turned out to be innocent all along, because usually I don’t happen to see that happen, given the fact that all my prisoners are post-conviction, and am phrasing this as ‘when your black inmate ends up released because it turns out the prosecution messed up and they were innocent all along’ with an image of my face very surprised but don’t worry it’s not racist because I legitimately see a lot of bad black people”
Edit: also, pointedly, other commenters are saying that in the original video it was actually s response to the man getting slapped for saying this, and not about the man saying this, so the actual original person wasn’t being sexist but the person taking the screenshot was just some rando
false equivalency. the woman in the screenshot is not just pointing out an issue that she has noticed in her field, but what she is noticing is directly related to sociological forces that have been studied. the reason men may be neglectful during childbirth is due to various patriarchal norms set for men. it's not sexist to point it out. these same patriarchal norms also hurt men, too. i mean, in your example, the stereotype of black men being inherently more dangerous/criminal is one that comes from white supremacy baked into our culture, and black men experience statistically high rates of false convictions. what the person in your "example" is surprised by, is not statistically reasonable to be surprised by. also, this is literally just another example of patriarchy. that stereotype, and mass incarceration, exist at the intersection between patriarchy and white supremacy as who is considered "dangerous", who needs to be "protected", and who needs to "protect", are all gendered norms that are heavily racialized.
"but what if it was reversed" is not a good argument when the group being criticized holds a position of power and privilege over the group doing the criticizing. you don't have to agree with it or like it, you can think it's wrong, but it's objectively not the same. one group's words carry more weight and contribute to oppression, one group's words just might offend you.
something being mean, hurtful, incorrect, or generalized is not the same as a systemic power structure upheld by generations upon generations of social stratification, social norms, institutional policies, physical & discursive violence, etc... me pointing out that women can't be "sexist" to men because it requires a position of power within social strata, and does not hold the same material consequences, does not mean i'm "justifying" it. i frankly don't care in debating about whether or not it was wrong because i don't even know the full context of the video, and even though i'm a man, i'm not a snowflake that gets butthurt when women make jokes. even if she is saying what people think she is in the video, i don't care because i know she's not referring to me personally. it's a tiktok. i'm just speaking sociology since that's my field of study and it's frustrating to see how much people refuse to understand how the world works because they think their feelings matter more.
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u/Dr-Assbeard Apr 24 '26
Chris here, the joke is sexism, she doesn't expect a man to be present and supportive durig childbirth