Hey, your dad gave his best. Birth is a monumental task and as a father you feel like a helpless bystander that is watching his wife perform a fucking miracle while screaming in pain or begging for help while all you can do is hold her hand and tell her she's doing great while there's excrement and blood involved.
Your dad is LEAGUES ahead of a guy that just leaves to smoke weed and fall asleep.
You just described the birth of my first child in perfect detail. I was NOT ready for that much poop and trauma. All I can remember is poop and trauma. I thought my wife was going to die, then I thought our unborn child was going to die, then they put us all to sleep for a rest (even me!), only to wake up and get right back to the poop and trauma.
I absolutely can not believe that we went and did it a second time. I am now proudly desexed.
I guess my question as a woman is… what did you expect? It wasn’t really too shocking for me because I had been warned my whole life how horrible it would be and that I could die. But men seem so surprised as if we don’t have tons of media of women screaming in pain during labour, lol. Like, did y’all think we were just being dramatic and dying cause we felt like it??
Yeah cause one person is experiencing pregnancy and the other person is complaining about another person experiencing pregnancy. Like if you break an arm it’s pretty reasonable to be upset even if you’ll be fine, if your wife breaks an arm you better not be complaining more than she is. One person is upset a thing is happening to their body (ouch) the other person is upset that that thing happening to their partner impacts them (hmm maybe not about you right now).
Women’s pain is dismissed so often. There’s a lot of ideas about women being dramatic and or attention seeking that genuinely impact the healthcare they receive. Seeing people surprised by or dismissive of the pain that occurs during pregnancy and birth is just a reminder of this.
You never really know what something will be like until it happens. Piss and moan about whatever you like, there aren’t any rules. What an honor to be inconvenienced by another person. What better measure of success than becoming someone who others feel safe with? I hope to carry as many burdens as I can for as many people as possible. Life is hard why not make it easier for eachother. Idk man HMU when your pregnancy goes exactly as you expect it to and I’ll eat my words. 🤷♂️
A lot of people don't expect pregnancy pain tbh. We get told that it's painful, probably one of the most painful things in the world, but how are you meant to know how painful it is unless you experience it?
Also, don't belittle your wife for being pregnant. That's just rude. What did you expect from the pregnancy?? You'd be complaining if you were your wife.
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u/Ethernum Apr 24 '26
Hey, your dad gave his best. Birth is a monumental task and as a father you feel like a helpless bystander that is watching his wife perform a fucking miracle while screaming in pain or begging for help while all you can do is hold her hand and tell her she's doing great while there's excrement and blood involved.
Your dad is LEAGUES ahead of a guy that just leaves to smoke weed and fall asleep.