You can’t blame her for having those experiences. Sure, not every father is like this towards their partner and child, but too many are, and she has witnessed that.
So if someone have first hand bad experience with women it is okay for them to jusgmental and sexistic towards other women? Is that really your position that sexism is okay if you have first hand bad experience with the gender you are discriminatory towards?
Do you also think the same wit race or other groupings?
I know your feelings are hurt but nobody said EVERY man does this. Just that a lot of men do. At that point your problem is that you feel called out and/or cannot handle critique of bad male behavior.
Nobody else will give you the time of day in this thread anymore, so enjoy this last crumb of attention from a woman you’ll be getting today.
Criticizing observed patterns of women being gold diggers isn't sexism
I know your feelings are hurt but nobody said EVERY woman is a gold digger. Just that a lot of women are. At that point your problem is that you feel called out and/or cannot handle critique of bad female behavior.
Does that analogy dumb it down for you enough? The fact that you spew out childish insults about him not getting women while simultaneously using the exact same logic incels do is hilariously ironic btw
Go talk to your fellow men about behaving better and not the people who suffer from it. It’s okay to validate (do you know what that means?)and acknowledge that many fathers are horrible to the mothers in labour. Enough so that nurses see it. I also worked in L&D and saw many men treat the pregnant women horribly, or me.
When a child is bit by a dog and as an adult is phobic of dogs, people are like "ah, yeah, I get it." When one's expirence with men is only negative, they're allowed to dislike them.
Here's another thing: I don't dislike men. But when a man complains about "not all men", it comes off as inherently suspicious. When you're sitting at the pool and the lifeguard blows the whistle and shouts "NO RUNNING!" do you shout back "Hey, not all of us are running!" or do you realize they're not talking to you?
And before you bite my head off, I'm a lesbian with a lot of straight male friends. I listen to men complain about women all the time. But it is rarely stuff that applies to me, and so I don't feel the need to go "Hey, not all of us do that!" Because in their experience, many do. And it doesn't exactly help their experience to stamp my foot and go "Nuh-uh!"
I get you'll probably still shout and bitch about how I'm a sexist cow, but let the record show I tried.
I think you are missing the part where it isn't a complaint about men, but a expectation of negative behaviour because of being a man.
Why would i call youna cow or shout, are you trying to portray me as being unreasonable and rude pr something? Thats kinda weird since i have only been insulting or rude in response to insults and rudnes aimed at me in these comments... would you find it discriminatory if i said that is the expected behaviour from you because younare a lesbian?
I'm not missing that. You're missing how they are related. Because in our experience, men behave negatively. So when they don't, it is surprising.
And I saw you respond to simple explanation with insults, thus my assumption. Can't say I'm surprised that you wanted to specify my sexuality over my gender, though. Men tend to see us as something else entirely.
Not my friends of course. But men like you. The loud, complaining ones who spew sexism every step of the way without realizing and then the instant anyone points it out you get haughty and defensive like this. But hey, at least I tried.
She isn’t doing this though. She has seen this situation more times than you ever will. So her stating this isn’t opinion, it’s fact. Yours is just an opinion because you have literally ZERO experience with it.
Stating what? She didn't even make any statements lmfao. I don't know what opinion or fact you think she stated, but acting surprised when someone doesn't fit your preconceived assumptions based on their gender is, in fact, sexism. The same way it'd be racism to act surprised when a black man doesn't rob you even if you've experienced that situation multiple times
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u/Elora_Freya Apr 24 '26
You can’t blame her for having those experiences. Sure, not every father is like this towards their partner and child, but too many are, and she has witnessed that.