I'm gonna guess that she's happily startled because, for example, mine hit his weed pen outside every 15 minutes and fell asleep on the couch and never once came near me. I think that my experience (or smth similar) is pretty common.
Edit: Hi, I'm an actually human person and was the first to comment on this. I'm not trying to start a damn war of the roses, and apparently this is NOT the correct answer (see the next comment below mine). Just popped in with my stupid, obviously incorrect thought about what this could mean. So chill with calling me a stupid whore.
Just do it. I promise, even though the idea feels overwhelming, like you're upending your whole life....you're not. You'll get up the next morning and do your normal routine, and go to bed that night, and the only thing different will be the amazing peace and quiet without him there.
Imagine not having to tiptoe around your own house. Imagine being able to just do things because you want to, without needing to worry about him.
Babe, just go. Planning is the BS excuse we use to stall and not make changes, and you know it.
Take a deep breath, move through the racing heart, and get rid of him. Tell him to gtfo. Or leave yourself. Whatever...just jump.
Your child deserves better than to grow up in an environment like that. Your job is to protect them and teach them what should be normal. An abusive, neglectful asshole isn't actually normal. You just think it is because that's what was modeled to you when YOU were young.
Break that cycle. Imagine if your child was dating someone who treated them the way he treats you. Would you accept that? No? What would you tell your child?
Now follow your own advice. Get going and start living the rest of your life. ❤️
Hell yeah! Nearly a year out of being away from my emotional abuser and I am so much better off now. I thought I was worth less than nothing. It's not all butterflies and roses but at least the sun is out most of the time now.
Even if you don't feel worthy now, know that you are and fake it til you shake it til you make it. Feels funny but literally look in the mirror and tell your self you are a badass bitch, outloud. And other positive affirmations. It helps to combat the other audio files that bust their way into your brain.
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u/BeatnikBun Apr 24 '26 edited Apr 24 '26
I'm gonna guess that she's happily startled because, for example, mine hit his weed pen outside every 15 minutes and fell asleep on the couch and never once came near me. I think that my experience (or smth similar) is pretty common.
Edit: Hi, I'm an actually human person and was the first to comment on this. I'm not trying to start a damn war of the roses, and apparently this is NOT the correct answer (see the next comment below mine). Just popped in with my stupid, obviously incorrect thought about what this could mean. So chill with calling me a stupid whore.