Go talk to your fellow men about behaving better and not the people who suffer from it. It’s okay to validate (do you know what that means?)and acknowledge that many fathers are horrible to the mothers in labour. Enough so that nurses see it. I also worked in L&D and saw many men treat the pregnant women horribly, or me.
When a child is bit by a dog and as an adult is phobic of dogs, people are like "ah, yeah, I get it." When one's expirence with men is only negative, they're allowed to dislike them.
Here's another thing: I don't dislike men. But when a man complains about "not all men", it comes off as inherently suspicious. When you're sitting at the pool and the lifeguard blows the whistle and shouts "NO RUNNING!" do you shout back "Hey, not all of us are running!" or do you realize they're not talking to you?
And before you bite my head off, I'm a lesbian with a lot of straight male friends. I listen to men complain about women all the time. But it is rarely stuff that applies to me, and so I don't feel the need to go "Hey, not all of us do that!" Because in their experience, many do. And it doesn't exactly help their experience to stamp my foot and go "Nuh-uh!"
I get you'll probably still shout and bitch about how I'm a sexist cow, but let the record show I tried.
I think you are missing the part where it isn't a complaint about men, but a expectation of negative behaviour because of being a man.
Why would i call youna cow or shout, are you trying to portray me as being unreasonable and rude pr something? Thats kinda weird since i have only been insulting or rude in response to insults and rudnes aimed at me in these comments... would you find it discriminatory if i said that is the expected behaviour from you because younare a lesbian?
I'm not missing that. You're missing how they are related. Because in our experience, men behave negatively. So when they don't, it is surprising.
And I saw you respond to simple explanation with insults, thus my assumption. Can't say I'm surprised that you wanted to specify my sexuality over my gender, though. Men tend to see us as something else entirely.
Not my friends of course. But men like you. The loud, complaining ones who spew sexism every step of the way without realizing and then the instant anyone points it out you get haughty and defensive like this. But hey, at least I tried.
And when you then make memes about it, thats sexist.
Where?
Not a man, i choose your sexuality to show how varied discrimination can be, but glad you agree doing so is discrimination even if it is an observation based on experience.
When did I spew sexism.
Maybe stop gendering people you don't know, its typical terf behaviour.
And no apology for being transphobic or anything? Even after insinuating i would be the insulting one and not showing any proof of me doing so? What abhorrent behaviour from someone who tried to talk about being better. Typical bigot behaviour...
I realized talking to you is useless. You may not be a man, but you think like one. That's not uncommon. We have trans folks and women who protect the patriarchy, too, who think they're exempt from being that way because they aren't men.
You wanna act like shock is sexism and men are all so oppressed because we're willing to point out a pattern of behavior, go for it. But I don't have time to explain that the leopards will eat your face, too.
Yeah you are one of those people defending the patriarchy when you make excuses for sexism and go around misgendering btw.
When did I say men were oppressed?
The thing is comparing men to leopards is also sexism, and acting like men in general are dangerous and evil is sexist and bigoted protection of the patriarchal structures.
Thanks, i hope you have learnd something and might consider becoming a feminist instead of a tool protecting and propagating patriarchal structures one day.
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u/Thisisstupidly Apr 24 '26
Go talk to your fellow men about behaving better and not the people who suffer from it. It’s okay to validate (do you know what that means?)and acknowledge that many fathers are horrible to the mothers in labour. Enough so that nurses see it. I also worked in L&D and saw many men treat the pregnant women horribly, or me.