Healthcare professional here. In our public system, it’s a rule of thirds I would say. 1/3 are a lovely couple, husband is v supportive, aware and engaged, attentive; 1/3 seem disengaged/not really bothered or part of conversation (and honestly sometimes those are the ones that cry and you’ve misjudged completely that they’re “not engaged”) and the final 1/3… hoo boy. Either not there, which is probably best for all, or absolutely fucking useless. Drunk. Or “cracking jokes” like an ahole.
It’s great you’re an involved dad and I do think even in the last 10 years it’s gotten a lot better, it’s more expected dads are involved and they are made feel welcome (cos I accept that’s a big issue and problem sometimes) but it’s certainly not abnormal to see bad treatment of/indifference towards delivering mothers by their spouses.
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u/DrTitanium Apr 24 '26
Healthcare professional here. In our public system, it’s a rule of thirds I would say. 1/3 are a lovely couple, husband is v supportive, aware and engaged, attentive; 1/3 seem disengaged/not really bothered or part of conversation (and honestly sometimes those are the ones that cry and you’ve misjudged completely that they’re “not engaged”) and the final 1/3… hoo boy. Either not there, which is probably best for all, or absolutely fucking useless. Drunk. Or “cracking jokes” like an ahole.
It’s great you’re an involved dad and I do think even in the last 10 years it’s gotten a lot better, it’s more expected dads are involved and they are made feel welcome (cos I accept that’s a big issue and problem sometimes) but it’s certainly not abnormal to see bad treatment of/indifference towards delivering mothers by their spouses.